in law woes
OK. I’ll be straight to the point. My mother in law is a word that sounds like “witch”. You’re married aren’t you? Do you have the same issues as us with nosy mother in laws? What do you do to survive?” – From D.I.L.
I am shocked that no-one has asked me the mother in law question before. It seems to be a popular topic of conversation between my friends and I! I am pretty lucky as I have a fairly good relationship with both my mother in laws. Yes, I have two. (Oh the joys of divorced husband’s parents!) There have been times over the years where they have driven me absolutely bonkers but rest assured, I’m pretty sure that I was a pain in the butt for them too.
I’ve only been married for 8 years but it seems that problems seemed to emerge at two definite times – the beginning of our marriage and when our kids were born. For me issues emerge over advice. I am a very stubborn person who doesn’t like being told what to do. Period. Even if the advice is good, nope, hate it. Forget advice, to me it sounds like I am being scolded. I am sure that that mindset hasn’t helped matters over the years. Mother in law #1 is American and tells me how things are done in America. Mother in law #2 is Japanese so I get the same thing. I am Australian so I have completely different ideas.
After getting so agitated that I felt physically sick on the way to visiting either mother in law I just had to decide to basically get over it. If I let it annoy me then I was the weaker person so I just listened to the advice, said I would think about it, or debate (politely) the issue and then agree to disagree. When I stopped being so stubborn and actually listened to what MIL #1 and #2 were saying some of the things made sense.
Now in saying that I realize that I am relatively lucky as both MIL #1 and #2 are OK in comparison to others. The thing I tell people is that if you love your husband, wife, partner or whoever you have to respect their parents. I always remember that without them the love of your life wouldn’t be the way they are today so you have to be thankful for that. They might drive you crazy but them just avoid them and be civil when you do meet. I still believe in having respect for your elders.
Try to not forget that we will be the mother in law’s some day. I believe in Karma and I have a son. I don’t want to be treated like a crazy person by my future daughter in law.
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