a crisis can transform you
A crisis can injure us deeply, profoundly altering the way we feel about ourselves. When a crisis occurs in one area of your life, it’s impact affects every other area.
A crisis can be a blessing in disguise. It forces you to create a new life, one that responds to your deepest needs. It shakes you up as you re-evaluate the people in your life…sometimes we lose those friendships which no longer serve us because we have changed, FOREVER.
Not all catastrophic events are easy for us to endure. When we have the necessary skills and know how to support ourselves, any life change can take us to a stronger and more authentic place.
Authenticity is being the person who you are proud to be in a life that offers you the opportunity to express yourself fully.
Life is full of loss. Everything we are, everything we know changes like the seasons. Some loss is predictable. Other times, loss is so devastating such as death of a spouse or family member, a crime against us or the loss of our health or livelihood. You try to hold on but life has told you that your old self is ready to move on and make room for your new self to emerge. We either embrace loss and live fully or deny and resist it, mourning eternally.
We often resist change because change is frightening. Some people go through a huge crisis never changing. These people never grow and remain stagnant which takes the form of illness, depression, weight problems & worse. If you are not an active participant in your own life, then you become a victim!
Re-creating yourself is your birthright. For your new, brilliant self to emerge, you must embrace loss – mourn it, let yourself grieve; it’s impossible to stop it. It will keep showing up until you pay attention to it.
Grief is a necessary element of change. My advice: structure times to grieve and ask for and receive comfort from yourself and others. At the same time celebrate the doorways loss opens for you.
Often we are stuck in the past because we imagine our power, our love and our fortune resides there. We cling to these memories as if we could rebuild them. We feel powerless to create what we have lost.
You are right, you cannot re-create the past because you have changed. It will be different but MORE powerful, moving and satisfying than anything you could ever imagine!
BLOGGER BIO
After losing my husband eight years ago from a severe stroke and finding myself in the depths of despair, I picked myself up and moved on with my life while taking care of two children, a home, animals and financial responsibilities.Upon completion of grief therapy, I realized I needed help with a new direction for my life. I began working with a Life Coach. During that time, we discovered that I had a gift for performing the same kind of work. I took the initiative and enrolled with the Coach’s Training Institute Certification Program and became certified in 2008. In 2009, I became a graduate of the Coach’s Training Institute’s Leadership Program, which changed my life forever!After the loss of my husband and the recent loss of my sister to cancer, I found the courage to overcome adversity and move forward with my life. With the help of mentors and training, I discovered a profound strength that supplies me with the tools for sharing with others and a deeper capacity for compassion and understanding during challenging times.I have dedicated my life’s work to helping women whose lives have been adversely impacted; assisting them with healing and providing them with the tools and support to re-energize and to face new beginnings for living life with passion and purpose.Contact information for Denise:
Certified Professional Co-Active Coach
Pick Up The Pieces Life Coaching
www.pickupthepieceslifecoaching.com
denisewest888@yahoo.com
661-714-9404
Oh this is so good Denise!! As I’ve gotten older, I firmly embrace change. Change makes us better. It’s rough at first, ok it sucks at first, but then it’s so much Better!! You are such a truly wise and compassionate person!!
Wow… lots to think about… I’m still feel stuck in my “past” relationship… What do you think Denise, my instinct is to go out and find another one, but will that stop my ability to “grieve” my old one and have it continure to show up until I pay attention to it?