making change easier
There are times when the importance of relationships become crystal clear. My parents just moved across the country and my youngest son is finishing High School and he bought his first car. All of a “sudden”, I am (in a way) no longer the ‘first’ daughter of my parents. (This will be my sister’s job now that my parents will be moving just a few miles from her home.) I am not “needed” as a mother on a daily basis by my children. As a minister, I am called upon to recognize these kinds of passages with ceremonies. Most often and most recognized are naming/christening ceremonies, memorial services and weddings. There are other equally important transitions in one’s life…. others we would do well to recognize and include in our lives.
Always a good idea, for example, to Bless every home into which you move. While we often call this a “house warming” party, there can be elements woven into the party that formally set the energetic tone you want in your home. You might want to stand in each direction of your home and ask that you enjoy safety, financial and emotional security and good health in the home. If you marry and have a big wedding ceremony – having a separation/divorce ceremony is a very good idea if that should occur. Big changes in life (sometimes referred to as “Stress”, call for bringing all of YOU into alignment with the future you want to create. The more consciously you do this – and the more people you gather – will in no small part determine how easily the transition transpires.
I think I’m up against such a time… the first thing to do is to define the ceremony. I’ll start with some basic questions. How is my life changing? What does that look like in terms of my daily calendar? (ie: does it change the time I set my alarm in the morning? Will it change my morning routine? ) Are my priorities shifting? (this answer here is always, YES, by the way) How? Where do I want to focus my attention and energies now? Am I engaging in behaviors that are not “current” with who I am/how my life is changing? (When you’re not “current”, you’re not open to the flow of energy. You need to be “Present” in order to be In Flow and out of resistance.) Assess what IS and then, Choose what you Want. I begin with another, fun-damental question: What makes me smile? What can I do to nurture my happiness? Sometimes its easier to discover the answer to those question by asking the reverse question. Sometimes you’re clearer about what is making you Un-happy or what’s been bugging you for years! Do yourself a favor: write it down. Help to clear the mind/heart. Once you’ve written these things down, you don’t have to keep running the list over and over in your head. These simple questions will help you focus on what you want your “new” life to be.
I am a great believer in the concept and principle of Balance and I use the Native American Medicine Wheel to help me achieve it. So, Four Directions = Four primary aspects of Life to Balance. A quarter of my time/energy/focus needs to be: Mind, Body, Emotions, Spirit. This also looks like – Mind= a discipline to help me master them, Body= food and exercise, Emotions= engage in active Happiness and releasing of emotions I don’t care to live IN: (the quality and quantity of Relationships is in this Quadrant, too) and Spirit= any religious or spiritual self and community – this may also involve any kind of service.
Now…. imagine your days unfolding with these new elements and new opportunities. Once you have allowed yourself to fully imagine a new ‘typical’ day, choose some elements from the day and create a ceremony that includes them! My ceremony will include things like Whey Protein Powder and walking shoes, an alarm clock set to 5 am, a copy of my Meditation CD, some new lingerie, and a picture of some of my spiritual teachers. Then, I’ll light some candles that I feel are in energetic alignment with my new life and simply ask for that life to flow into and through me without effort or resistance as I freely “offer” my old life/patterns to the flow of the past/change.
Happy Transitions to you all!
I began this life in what was at the time, Leopoville, Belgian Congo. (Currently it is Kinshasa, Democratic Republic of the Congo.) I started early to study metaphysics in the form of Astrology at age 8 and had my first existential crisis at age 12. I also began to work with Tarot at about that age, though I don’t think that the two are related. I continued to be drawn to metaphysics in its many various forms. I studied “Trance Channeling” (which I now refer to as Mediumship) in the 1980s. It was in the 80s that I found myself a home at the Healing Light Center Church under the direction of Rev. Rosalyn L. Bruyere. My spiritual guidance gave me a lifelong gift when it led me to her doors. I have had the great honor and pleasure of working as her student for over 20 years now. Ordained first in the Universal Life Church, I then earned a degree in Hands on Healing (Energy Medicine) from the HLCC and years later was ordained again – this time as a Healing Light Center Church minister. I have always believed that God doesn’t care what you call her, as long as you call . The seminary program at the HLCC taught me to work in and honor many spiritual traditions – Christian, Jewish, Bon Po, Goddess, Wiccian, Egyptian and the ways of the Native Americans or the Red Road. I later spent several years exclusively following the Red Road and studying with a Native teacher. I call my ministry a Gypsy ministry as I simply go where I’m called.